Damien Leyva:
Habit and Behavior Change / 20+ Years Helping People
Feeling Stuck Where
Nothing Seems to Work?
Have you tried everything (or more things than you care to admit)
and still aren't where you want to be?
Maybe you've made some progress.
Shit, you might've even had some "insight" as to why you haven't changed.
Yet your "Problem" remains.
You're tired of it and are ready to do something that finally works.
If you're like most people, you might think, or better yet "know," that you need more discipline, self-control, and/or need to put in more effort.
Yet, you still can't "stick to things." The reason is because underneath your struggles there's a hidden pattern made up of:
1. Your Stories about the Situation: These are your Beliefs of what mind "knows" how you're supposed to be. Emotionally it can feel like a fact, even if you might, "Logically know that it's not (insert what you might logically know)..."
2. Your Survival Strategies: These are your learned Behaviors of how to act when you're stressed. You might have been acting this way for so long, you see it as "natural." There are 25 that fall into 5 Main Protective Patterns.
3. Your body's reactions under stress: Do you shut down? Do you reach for your phone to escape? Do you simply avoid situations? Do you procrastinate because you "love the rush" of doing something last minute? Do you shut down when thinking about "that one thing" that messed you up in the past? Do you need ways to calm down because you get too worked up?
These are the core protective responses. They make up how you've survived in the past, and become the habits of how your brain and body react before you've often had any conscious thought. But the way into knowing these things is often through your behaviors, better known as your Habits.
Start by understanding your pattern. Then choose how you want to work with it.
See Where You're At → Choose if You Want to Work On It → Take Steps to Change Your Pattern
Your Pattern
Why the Same Problems Keep Repeating
Many people come to coaching because they’re dealing with a specific life problem:
Relationship Struggles
Wanting to Change a Habit
Overthinking and Self-Criticism
Feeling Unsure if you're on the right path and how to get to where you want to be
Difficulty Following Through
Often the real issue isn’t the situation.
It’s the pattern underneath it.
This pattern is one you've built up from the "lessons" (often not great memories) that taught you how to survive the moment. Until you see the pattern, know how to and build the skills to change it, the behaviors will keep repeating.
The work we do together focuses on seeing your pattern clearly and learning the tools you can use to change the core of your "presenting problems."
Belief → Behavior → Bodily Reaction → Habit You Want to Change
Most patterns follow the same sequence:
Belief (Story) → Behavior (Survival Strategy) → Bodily Sensations → The Habit You Want to Change.
When stress rises, your mind activates a story it learned earlier in life. This story runs without your conscious awareness.
This story activates the behaviors (or habits) you fall back onto when you're stressed. These are often the Survival Strategies you learned to use in the past to protect you, in the moment.
These strategies may have helped you in the past, and even now in specific situations, but are now the very problems you’re trying to fix.
Awareness comes about from tracking your behavior (your habits).
Once you have awareness, the goal is to understand where that habit is reinforced. This can be a Story, Skill, or System issue. The most entrenched habits are often Story issues.
Some are Skill or System issues and that's what we fix in the Habit Change U Foundational Course.
If that doesn't fix the issue, then we get into all the techniques with the Reveal Your Core Self Program to change your "Inner Emotional Stories." This shifts your behaviors (often the "presenting problems") and you start to resolve the issue without having to constantly "be on."
Recognition
What are your Top Survival Strategies?
Most people rely on a handful of Survival Strategies that often present themselves as stress rises. Knowing them and what you'd like to do instead, is the beginning to living an Authentically Aligned Life.
Controlling Strategies
Protection comes from control and preparation. Trying to manage every detail, outcome, and sometimes others, so nothing can surprise or overwhelm you.
Strategies include:
- Problem Solving
- Lying and/or cheating
- Preparing for every scenario
- Dominating and Bullying Others
- Never Enough
Rebel Strategies
Actively pushing threats away or highlighting how things in our world are ridiculous and absurd for being how they are.
Strategies include:
- Sarcasm and/or humor
- Rebelliousness
- Fierce Protector
- F' the "System" or Person
Avoiding Strategies
Protection comes from distance or distraction. Using techniques to pull away when they get hard - from conversations, decisions, or feelings, so you can get lost in something else.
Strategies Include:
- Procrastination
- Complaining/Preemptive anger
- Disassociation
- Escapism
- Playing Small
- Running Away
Relinquishing Responsibility Strategies
Protection comes from being seen, loved, and saved simply for existing and not having to deal with "adult things." Desiring someone else or something outside of you to deal with the hard things, without you directly asking for it.
Strategies include:
- Passive-Aggressiveness
- Believing Your Emotions More Than Anything Else
- Victim Mentality
- Enmeshment
- Worship
Vigilant Judging Strategies
Protection comes from vigilance, self-improvement, and constantly scanning others and yourself to make sure it's "aligned" and harmonious of what people expect, despite what you truly want and need.
Strategies Include:
- People Pleasing
- Constant Self-Critical Voice
- Rumination
- Perfectionism
Discover Your Top 5 Main Survival Strategies When Stressed
Take the Quiz to:
Understand Your Top 5 Survival Strategies (out of 25) When Stressed
Get insights on Changing Your Stress Patterns, Inside-Out Relationship Issues, and The Political is Personal Insights
Receive Tools for working with Behavior, Beliefs, and Bodily Stress responses
Habit Change U
Let Your Behaviors Drive Your Insight
Focusing solely on your behavior rarely will change it, but the way into the deeper layers controlling your behavior is by being aware of your actions, and using reflection and assessment to see how they line up, or not, towards how you want to be.
The Habit Change U Foundational Course helps you to start to shift your habits. But more than that, you start to uncover the Stories and beleifs that have locked your behaviors into action in the first place.
This is a 5-Call, 30-Day Foundational Course that lays out how change happens "in the real world." Not when you're at your best or riding a high, but how to make change last, for the long-term.
By starting to consistently, consciously monitor your behaviors, you start to get insight into the underlying patterns driving them.
This is where real change begins, with awareness and understanding, not by pushing harder against yourself.
Join the Course for a one-time payment of $197 or join the ongoing coaching program, The Integrated You, where you get access to all 7 Group Coaching Programs for $97 per month (More Information Below).
Inside the Movie of the Mind Method
Become more aware of your behaviors and how they're often linked to specific Survival Strategies.
5 Live (and recorded) Group Coaching Calls within 30-Days.
Break down the area of your life that would have the most impact in your life, right now.
Track Your Habit for 3 full weeks, to get extra accountability.
Break down your habits in the 4 phases: Cue, Craving, Routine, Reward.
Understand and change your Keystone Action, which is key to you actually doing the habit.
Start to become aware of and reframe your "Inflection Points" so you can control your actions, at the times that matter the most.
End up with greater insight AND a foundation to your habits that allows you to continue seeing progress after you complete the foundational course.
Enrollment & Pricing
Choose How You'll Start to Change
Start with either the Habit Change U Sprint Course or the ongoing Integrated You Membership giving you access to ALL 7 Programs to keep working with your behaviors, beliefs, and body-based techniques.
Habit Change U Sprint Course Only
Focus on one powerful habit change in the most important area of your life.
Full 30-Day Habit Change U Foundational Course
5 Live (and recorded) Group Coaching Calls
Choose Habits from the area of your life that's most important to you, right now.
Break down that habit into the 4 Core aspects of:
Cue, Craving, Routine and Reward
Understand the "Keystone Action" that becomes the biggest indicator of whether or not you take the action you want
Daily check-ins to help keep you on track (Starting in Week 2)
Starts New Every Month (except Aug and Dec) on either Monday or Tuesday at 8 pm EST.
Mondays on the Odd Months (Jan, Mar, May, Jul, Sep, Nov)
Tuesdays on the Even Months (Feb, Apr, Jun, Oct)
*One Time Fee
The Integrated You Membership:
Access to All 7 Courses
+ Ongoing Coaching
$97 per month, cancel anytime after the initial 30 days.
Everything in Masterclass PLUS...
Weekly ongoing coaching calls: The first 3 Wednesdays of each month at 7 pm EST
Access to ALL 7+ Group-Coaching and Courses including:
1. Habit Change U Sprint Course and Coaching
2. See Your Pattern 14-Week Group Coaching and Course
3. The Values and Vision Workshop Intensive
4. Forge Your Future: The Habit Change U Grad Level Group Coaching Course
5. How to Not be an Asshole 10-Week Group Coaching and Course
6. The Inside-Out Masculinity 14-Week Group Coaching and Course
7. The Political is Personal Ongoing Coaching
8. Ongoing Wednesday Check-ins and Feedback: The first 3 Wednesdays of each month. This is separate from all the individual courses and coaching
*Can only take one at a time, but you'll have access to the
ongoing group coaching calls (Wednesdays) throughout
Consistent community and accountability
*Monthly Fee (Cancel Anytime)
Not sure which option fits you best? Take the Survival Stragies Quiz below, join the email list, and you’ll receive details on upcoming cohorts and how the ongoing coaching works in practice.
Three Brands for the
Three Levels We're All Apart Of:
See Your Pattern
The Personal Brand
This is Your Past, Present, and Future Dreams. How well you've dealt with your shit. If you've faced your shit, how at peace do you feel with where you're at and how you've gotten there.
Personal Responsibility is always key, but not the only step.
Inside-Out
Masculinity
The Interpersonal Brand: For Men Only
How you show up in your Relationships and how you've chosen to deal with the underlying fears you may have, that you don't like to discuss. The key is how much others feel safe around you, leading to increased trust and ultimately respect, allowing you to "feel like a man" from both yourself and the people you care about the most.
This is what gives life joy and meaning beyond yourself.
The Political
Is Personal
The Collective Brand
This is Political and Economic conditions which create the cultural representation downstream of those two key components.
Systems always impact you, whether or not you see them and recognize them. This helps you see how they impact you and the people you care for.
Personal Change: See Your Pattern
Simplified Pattern of Behavior: Situation to Story to Survival Strategy to Soma Sensation to Your Reaction/Habit
Situation:
Example #1: You overeat something you didn't want to.
Example #2: You get into an argument with your partner.Story:
#1: "Why do I always do this? I have no self-control."
#2: "I don't know how to fix this. It's so annoying."Survival Strategy:
#1: Self-Critical Voice
#2: Trying to Fix EverythingState: Soma (Body) Sensation:
#1: Lots of adrenaline feeling like inner anxiety and agitation.
#2: Increased adrenaline where you feel you have to act NOW to start to fix things, interpreted as annoyance.Leads to....
Your Reaction/Habitual Pattern:
#1: Call yourself a lazy piece of shit who's never going to change.
#2: Start to defend yourself and over explain why you did something or just walk away because you don't "want to make things worse."
See Your Pattern is about knowing where you're currently at. Take the Free Quiz to start to understand the main Survival Strategies you have.
Inside-Out Masculinity: Relational Layer
How do you show up for the people you care about, in your life?
The key for men in relationships, more than any other thing, is to be able to create safety within yourself and expand that out, so the women and children in your life feel safe around you. All men want respect, but you only get that by earning trust. Trust is only given when women feel safe. Break this, and everything else eventually breaks down.
Safety takes 5 Primary Forms:
• Resource Safety: Most men focus almost exclusively on this. Yes women tend to be hypergamous (like men tend to care about looks a lot), but focusing only on this is (like a woman who ONLY focuses on looks) will eventually cause disconnection in the relationship.
• Emotional Safety: Most men utterly fuck up here and then can't understand why the women and children in their lives don't feel connected to them. If you can't do this, you will fuck up the best of relationships, and will lose amazing women.
• Intellectual Safety: Do you take initiative to learn about her and what you need? Do you help in ways that allow others to feel taken care of or do you weaponize incompetence? Do you live by your values and do your values protect women and children or seek to control them? These are parts of what intellectual safety is.
• Physical Safety: Do I need to explain this? Do you know how to control your anger around women and children, without being a push-over? Do you know how to use your words when frustrated or do you simply "take it" and stonewall?
• Sexual Safety: If all the others are generally met, then sexual safety has the opportunity to blossom, even as it has its own dimensions.
If you're a guy already starting with a "But what about..." Let me stop you there. You DO NOT have inner safety. Without that for yourself, you'll fuck up your relationships and blame women or children. It's not them. It's you. These programs teach you how to create that inner safety. There are 5 areas in which you have to do that for yourself.
Your Action Step:
Either Continue to do what you've been doing, feel "righteous" about it and say how "she's the problem,"
Or Face and start to Fix Your Shit. You shouldn't control her, but you should know and take control over yourself. This means stop acting from the scripts of your past and that starts with Seeing Your Pattern.
Somehow idiots tried to convince men that knowing their emotions is "womanly." These were traditionally ads made to sell men shit. But if you don't know your emotions, how to control them, without having more internal battles, then you'll always be controlled by outside circumstances.
Being controlled and whipped around by external circumstances has to be the least masculine thing I can think of.
The Political is Personal: The Collective Layer
Patterns don't just exist inside you and other people, but also collectively.
Connecting what happens to political and economic to the personal: Nearly everything political impacts you, whether or not you are fully aware of it.
NOTE: I believe a better future should be possible for everyone and not just a select few.
You don’t have to share my political views, but I am clear about my bias:
systems should create safety and opportunity for people, not undermine them.
If you believe only certain people deserve a better future, and not everyone, we’re probably not a good fit.
You need to take Personal Responsibility
AND people live in systems and environments where their material reality is often dictated by things outside their direct control.
Coaching Works on what it can help with: Your Self and Your Relationships, and although we can't undo everything from a political, cultural, and economic standpoint, you can control what you can control...which is mostly yourself.
Start to take control by See Your Stress Pattern by taking the Survival Strategies Quiz.
Control what you can control, by learning how you deal with stress and techniques so you act more aligned with how you'd like to be.
Who Is Your Coach?
About Damien Leyva
I could list credentials—and there are plenty.
A degree in psychology.
Over 20 years working one-on-one with people as a personal trainer and coach.
Training across multiple disciplines—from Internal Family Systems–informed coaching to Core Transformation, relationship coaching through the Gottman Method, somatic approaches, trauma-informed work, hypnosis techniques, and more.
But the truth is, none of that is the real reason I built this work.
This started with two questions I've been trying to answer for most of my life:
1. Why do people do the things they do? AND
2. How do you change them so the change sticks?
I grew up with an alcoholic stepfather.
Watching someone I love destroy their own life, while making my childhood chaotic and painful. This led me to these questions early.
The first version of the question was simple: “Why doesn’t he just stop?”
This question turned into decades of searching and studying everything from neuroscience, psychology, habit change, trauma, addiction, behavior, motivation. Basically anything that might explain why people repeat patterns they don’t want.
Yet nearly every system comes back to the same message:
Work harder.
Push through.
Use discipline.
Struggle now so life can be worth it later.
But why? Why can't you enjoy the journey? "Because it's not human nature." Humans are lazy. Because people are bad at predicting what will make them happy in the future. Humans are bad at projecting themselves in the future and therefore you have to have constant vigilance.
This felt like a terrible way to live. Always having "to be on." Always having to be aware of what you're doing. Always comparing what you're doing to where you want to be. Always judging yourself.
What happens when you're tired, stressed, and when you need the change to stick, yet you end up in your old patterns? This leads to a lack of self-trust, ruined relationships, and deeper shame.
Yet I worked that "terrible" system..at least on the outside.
By my mid-30s, I'd done what people think should bring satisfaction:
I got out of debt. Built a successful business. Had healthy relationships. Freedom. Stability.
From the outside, life looked good.
Internally though, there was an "emptiness."
Not broken. Not miserable. Just unfulfilled in a way that didn’t make sense.
So I went back to the drawing board.
Not just studying theory, but studying what actually works when people change for real, over the long-term.
This led me into meditation, internal reflection, parts-based work, somatic practices, and eventually a structured process that helped me resolve emotional reactions at their source.
Not manage them.
Resolve them.
This process evolved into what I call: The Movie of the Mind Method and the total change I call The Integrated Implicit Change Framework.
This framework had to work on my most entrenched habits, behaviors that had shaped my life for decades AND work with 90+% of my clients....and it had to do so with less internal strife. It had to keep the change even when I was stressed, even when I was utterly exhausted. If it could do that, then I'd teach it to others.
It had to work with patterns I'd tried, and failed, to change for years.
Over time, with some tweaking and consistent self-reflection, the process worked and I changed. Not through constant force. Not through discipline battles. But through resolving the underlying emotional stories that had been driving them.
This was the turning point.
This isn’t about forcing behavior.
It’s about resolving the blocks that make change feel impossible.
You end up building internal peace and safety around things you'd been reacting out of fear, often so buried you don't even call it fear. Instead you call it, "just how you are."
I've spent decades studying, refining, testing it, and teaching it. You get the benefit of that work without spending decades trying to figure it out alone.
My goal is simple: To make lasting change accessible, without forcing struggle to be the price of growth.
My coaching is grounded in both real-world experience and scientific methods that work, with the goal of non-judgment, but without sugar-coating nonsense that gets in the way of change.
You have the power to change, even if you've tried and failed. Even if you're not sure of yourself or of the technique. Even if you still believe you MUST be more disciplined (some discipline is always necessary, but you don't need "more" of it).
I hope to help make your change journey, more steady, to create more inner safety and peace, while you still make the changes you want in your life.
All the Best,
Damien Leyva
Three Ways to Continue:
#1: Take the Survival Strategies Quiz:
#2: Sign-up for the 30-Day, 5-Group Coaching Call Program: Habit Change U Foundational Course
Learn the skills to start changing the core of your behaviors, by learning the system of your habits.
#3: Schedule a Call if you're interested in one-on-one coaching:
Some Testimonials from Clients
After just one session, I noticed I wasn’t reacting the same way. It was different than anything else I’ve done. I haven't had a "dark day" since before we did a session.
I see now that the root of my issues is around acceptance/love and fear of not being able to handle it. Using what I learned, I just had another great insight and stopped a whole day of confusion and anxiety in its tracks. Thank you! This has been nothing short of transformative. The science backs it up: Emotions drive behavior. This process let me calm the storm inside, and new behaviors followed more readily.
Working with Damien has been so productive and has truly helped me get rid of poor habits and adopt healthier habits that empower me to make positive changes and achieve my goals. He helped me get to the root of my panicked and disordered eating and assisted me in setting goals, assessing why the goals might not have been achieved, and adjusted my routines and habits to reach them. I have and continue to see positive emotional and physical results and can't wait to sue these tools each day.
You're a Good Fit If
Who This is For...
If more than a couple of these apply to you, you're in the right place...
You want to do better
You're tired of repeating the same patterns
You've read more than a few self-help books and although they help and feel good for a bit, you still can't stick with the changes
You're interested in personal growth
You may have done therapy (or may currently be in it) and want a little extra
You've had issues with habit change, confidence, communication, relationships, purpose, and the nitty gritty details of what to do
You're thoughtful and self-aware
You've had insights and know more about yourself, yet for some reason, your behaviors haven't changed much
You're willing to show up and do the work on a consistent basis
You're done looking for the "next quick fix" and want to learn the skills and have the feedback and accountability to help you create the life you want
You want to build self-trust in a way where you want more inner peace
You're willing and able to "look at your shit" and stop running from the patterns of your life
You're willing to spend an hour a week on the call and are willing to put in 3 to 30 minutes per day to create the life you want
Who This is Not For...
If these things apply to you, we might not be a good fit...
You're looking for a quick-fix, instead of understanding the patterns that have gotten you here
You just need more information to push harder, to beat yourself up more so you finally stay disciplined
You're not interested in introspection, but instead, only about achievement and don't see how introspection and achievement are linked.
You think therapy is stupid and looking back at your past is a waste of time
You "know" you ONLY have to believe in yourself more. Belief in yourself is the only thing you need and that's easy, so anything more than that is a waste of time.
You're think trump is a good person and is "saving America"
You know the problem is "out there" and not really you
You're too busy to stay on track with things and can't add another thing to your life right now.
You just want to be told what to do and change that ONE thing and be done
You're looking for someone to "save you"
You'll use what you learn in this to be more manipulative in your relationships
Client Real World Changes
7 Changes Clients Have Made
1. Help Lowering Their Anxiety: Have you ever been nervous about something you know that is outside your control? And despite knowing that it's outside of your control, despite knowing that logically, it did nothing to help lower your anxiety or nervousness?
With this client, we were able to reduce their worries about the health of their family members, so they could still care, but didn't feel they had to control everything to feel secure.
By the end, they were surprised their anxiety no longer negatively affected them saying, after a small health scare occurred, "That would've definitely sent me spiraling before….it was like magic."
2. Confidence at work: This person was able to change how they viewed their responsibilities and being able to deal with their boss in a more productive manner.
This has led to more confidence, allowing them to take more chances at work, which, in their words, has made them "Feel proud."
3. Communication with Their Partner: What happens when you need something for your parrtner, but they've been super stressed with work and their own family health issues. When do you bring it up? How do you do communicate when they already have a lot on their plates.
For this client, we worked on the stories for the things they could control, that were their "own things." From there, handling what they coudl on their own, then it was easier to understand what they truly needed from their partner and how to communicate that in a way
This has led to more confidence, allowing them to take more chances at work, which, in their words, has made them "Feel proud."
4. Speaking Up for Yourself:
How do you tell others that something isn't cool with you, especially if you're a "people pleaser?"
We worked together so this person felt more confidence in being able to have this conversation in a way that allowed them to express themselves "Without feeling like an ass."
5. Sticking to Healthier Eating:
Have you tried losing weight and sticking to diets in the past, only to fall back during the holidays or when work gets busy? If you're like most people, of course.
With this client, we worked on the stories they were telling themselves when they got cravings, had to travel for work, and how they celebrated special events. We did that, while also setting up different systems for them.
They were able to gain confidence they could stick to the eating they wanted, despite being busy, despite the holidays and their birthday, and were able to stick to their healthy eating.
6. Being a Better Parent:
If you're a parent, you know how it goes. You're already tired. It's been a long day, you have a kid, maybe two fighting all day, and then they do something that just makes you "lose your cool." You feel good for a second...and then the guilt comes. You question why you snapped. How can you ensure that it doesn't happen in the future?
This is one of my favorite things to work on, because I find it one of the most important. Understanding what that person's story was, about how "kids are supposed to behave," and then coming to peace with it, so that you feel more at peace with yourself and you change your actions around your kids. At the end, the person was like, "Although I feel a bit of shame, I know it's a me issue and feel more confident I'll handle it well going forward."
7. Starting New Creative Endeavors
This person has a successful professional career and singing has been their hobby. They wanted to expand it and perform in front of people and make their singing more visible, but had hesitations, anxiety, and confidence issues.
After a few sessions, this person was able to overcome those fears and said they "Actually enjoy performing in front of others."
What Do You Want Help Changing?
What's the thing in your life, if you were able to change, you would feel better about?
You already know it...if you'd admit it to yourself. If you felt you could actually, finally change this thing, even if you can't name it yet.
What Makes This Different
Most Change Work
This is what happens with traditional "self help" programs...
Most change work teaches you to push harder.
More Discipline
More motivation.
More achievement.
Sometimes that works…at least on the surface.
You stay busy.
You stay productive.
Yet underneath it all?
The same fear is still there.
Instead of resolving the fear, many people build their lives around protecting themselves from it.
The Analogy of Being Scared of Being Cheated On:
Instead of facing that fear, they work more.
Earn more.
Create distance.
Keep back-up options. "Ways out."
They stay guarded as a way to protect themselves, but they're not safe. Instead, they're being driven by fear and thinking they're "smart" for taking these steps.
In the process, they create the very distance that eventually destroys the relationship they were trying to protect.
This is what most change work does:
It builds protection, not peace.
This Work is Different
This work isn’t about becoming stronger at pushing through fear.
This work is about resolving the fear that keeps driving your reactions in the first place.
When fear runs the system:
Achievement becomes armor.
Productivity becomes avoidance.
Discipline becomes survival.
No matter how much you achieve, something still feels off.
It feels empty. Unfinished. Not good enough.
What People Truly Want:
When you strip everything down, most people don’t want more achievement.
They want more inner peace and satisfaction from their achievements.
They want to feel more safety after they've done what they needed to.
They want the ability to enjoy the present moment without dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.
They want to feel confident they can create the life they want.
Many people never get there...at least on a consistent basis.
When safety is missing, life becomes reactive.
You chase things not because you want them, but because you think they’ll protect you.
The Real Difference
This process builds self-trust from the inside out.
Not by forcing change.
Not by pushing harder.
But by helping you reconnect with yourself: your emotions, your patterns, your history.
To resolve what’s been driving your reactions all along.
The goal isn’t just to change behavior, but yes that obviously comes.
It’s to change how you emotionally feel when you're by yourself, inside your own life.
Because when you feel safe internally:
You stop reacting.
You start choosing.
And the life you build comes from alignment, not fear.
This is how you become free.
You stop chasing achievement because it's not what you truly want.
You don't have to "prove yourself" and when you don't have to prove yourself, you become free to build the life you truly want.
You don’t need more discipline.
You need more inner safety.
When you have that, you act, not because of discipline, but because of genuine desire.
You still "have to do" certain things, but you also give yourself an in to create the life you're genuinely excited to create.
And that's fucking priceless.
Ready to SeE How This Applies to Your Life...
Choose Your "In"
Start with either the Habit Change U Sprint Course or the ongoing Integrated You Membership giving you access to ALL 7 Programs.
Habit Change U Sprint Course Only
Focus on one powerful habit change in the most important area of your life.
Full 30-Day Habit Change U Foundational Course
5 Live (and recorded) Group Coaching Calls
Choose Habits from the area of your life that's most important to you, right now.
Break down that habit into the 4 Core aspects of:
Cue, Craving, Routine and Reward
Understand the "Keystone Action" that becomes the biggest indicator of whether or not you take the action
Daily check-ins to help keep you on track (Starting in Week 2)
Starts New Every Month (except Aug and Dec) on either Monday or Tuesday at 8 pm EST.
Mondays on the Odd Months (Jan, Mar, May, Jul, Sep, Nov)
Tuesdays on the Even Months (Feb, Apr, Jun, Oct)
*One Time Fee
The Integrated You Membership:
Access to All 7 Courses
+ Ongoing Coaching
$97 per month, cancel anytime after the initial 30 days.
Everything in Masterclass PLUS...
Weekly ongoing coaching calls: The first 3 Wednesdays of each month at 7 pm EST
Access to ALL 7 Group-Coaching and Courses including:
1. Habit Change U Sprint Course and Coaching
2. See Your Pattern 14-Week Group Coaching and Course
3. The Values and Vision Workshop Intensive
4. Forge Your Future: The Habit Change U Grad Level Group Coaching Course
5. How to Not be an Asshole 10-Week Group Coaching and Course
6. The Inside-Out Masculinity 14-Week Group Coaching and Course
7. The Political is Personal Ongoing Coaching
8. Ongoing Wednesday Check-ins and Feedback: The first 3 Wednesdays of each month. This is separate from all the individual courses and coaching
*Can only take one at a time, but you'll have access to the
ongoing group coaching calls (Wednesdays) throughout
Consistent community and accountability
*Monthly Fee (Cancel Anytime)
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